As I keep saying over and over again, Bash is four months old now! So obviously that makes me an expert in all things baby and parenting ;)
Sometimes I can’t wait to read these posts back in a few years and laugh at what I thought I knew at the time. But since I’m currently living it I’m just going to go with it. My future self will thank me (while laughing/rolling eyes probably).
Since having Bash I’ve had a few friends get pregnant with their first babies and so I see the usual posts on Facebook: “what are the essentials that we need to get?”. And then you see a million comments from everyone about what they think is really necessary.
I remember it well. You had the “babies just need food, diapers, and cuddles” people. Which is technically true, but not very reassuring to new parents who want to be prepared for this little person entering their lives.
And then you had the overwhelming people telling you about all the latest gadgets and things that you had to have.
If you’re very lucky you have some one in your life who you respect and share parenting styles with and you can just ask their advice instead.
But as I read some of the Facebook comments on my friend’s posts it made me think that the world needed yet another person’s opinion on the matter ;)
So here I am with my top 10 must-haves for newborn to 3 months!
- swaddler // they taught us at the hospital how to swaddle, but once we got home we realized we weren’t that great at it. Those nurses are magic! But lucky for us we had a swaddler with handy velcro on it that made it so much easier. Bash only used it for the first week because he would end up wriggling his arms out of it during the night so eventually we moved on to the sleepsack. But it made that first week of nights so much easier!
- sleepsacks // like I said, we moved onto the sleep sack pretty early but we still use it every night and it’s perfect! He stays warm, can’t kick off blankets, and we don’t have to be paranoid parents checking on him every 5 minutes to see if his blanket is suffocating him. I would suggest having 2 so you still have a clean one when the other needs to be washed.
- snot sucker + saline // this is disgusting, but it’s the one thing I always tell people they need if they ask. Maybe it’s the dryness of winter or just his little nose, but we still use this on him at least once a day and it works amazing. Even if you don’t end up using it as often as we do it can be a lifesaver for when you do need it. Just make sure you pick up some infant saline spray too.
- baby washcloths // I remember at my baby shower getting so.many.washcloths. I felt like every other gift I opened had some more in it. And now I am soooo happy about that. I just assumed you’d only use them at bath time, but nope. They are so handy for all sorts of messes throughout the day and a lot more convenient then using a whole receiving blanket to clean up every time.
- receiving blankets. Like 10+ // this one might seem obvious, but for some reason we only had one receiving blanket. One! So after washing it every day we went and bought a 4 pack of them… and then a couple weeks later we bought another 4 pack. And I’m pretty sure a month later we bought another pack. There are days when we go through 1 or 2 and then there are days when4 or 5 are dirty before noon.
- baby stain remover // I didn’t think clothes would stain so much so fast, but they do. So save yourself from throwing away too many onesies and grab some stain remover stat.
- nursing tanks (if you’re breastfeeding) // I lived in these. Strike that… I still live in these. They’re affordable, can go under anything, and makes feeding anywhere was easier. But I can’t wait for the day when I get to toss them in the back of the closet and wear real clothes again #honestmotherhood
- scratch mittens // We had one pair and I never gave it a second thought. That is until we realized that baby nails are like razor blades and cutting newborn nails is terrifying. And if a first-time parent can successfully cut their newborn’s nails then they have my respect forever. But if you’re like me then having your baby live in scratch mitts for the first 1-2 months is a way better solution. We stopped using them around 3 months and now I can proudly say that I can cut Bash’s nails without any fear. But for those first few months they’re a lifesaver. I use these now and have never drawn blood or cut to close. (Side note: how do baby nails grow so fast?!)
- bottle starter pack + sterilizer // I almost didn’t put this one on because we haven’t used either in probably at least a month and a half. But even though I’m only breastfeeding we were giving him bottles in the first month to keep track of how much he was eating, and would use the sterilizer for the bottles and pump parts every day. If you aren’t breastfeeding then you will definitely be using those bottles and sterilizer all day long too.
- freezer meals // The month before he was born I spent a couple of days just making freezer meals. I filled our little apartment size freezer to the top and am so glad I did. Otherwise I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have eaten real meals those first few months.
Bonus: we aren’t the parenting-book types of people, but friends of ours gave us one early on that turned out to be so helpful: The Wonder Weeks.
It explains when your baby is going to go through a “leap” of learning something new which almost always comes with a few days of a fussy, cranky-pants baby. We didn’t read much of it until we were through the first couple of growth spurts and then as we were catching up we had so many “ohhhh, that’s why he was like that” moments.
It helps understand why your baby, who was so happy yesterday, suddenly can’t be pleased. For us it makes it so much easier to get through those rough days when you understand why baby is being like that, and to know that it’s going to pass sooner than you think.
I also appreciate that I only have to read a chapter ever few weeks or months. Because who has the time for more than that?
Obviously there’s a bunch of other things you need for a new baby – car seat (can’t leave the hospital without it!), stroller, diapers, crib or bassinet, clothes, formula if you’re going that way. But the above are the “extras” that we found super helpful for us as new parents.
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I also wanted to include some things we thought we needed, but definitely didn’t:
- swing // so many people swore by the swing, but we hardly used it. Bash would nap in it sometimes, but most of the time we cuddled him because come on, sleepy newborn cuddles are the best. Even now he doesn’t like sitting in it for too long. So maybe borrow one from a friend to see if your baby likes it before shelling out the cash for one.
- soothers // I had a few different kinds on my registry because I was told that sometimes it takes trying a bunch to find out which kind you baby will like. Turns out my baby doesn’t really like any. He will take NUK ones now if he’s really drowsy and we’re trying to get him to sleep, but even then he usually spits it out as soon as we let go. I’m not saying don’t get soothers (they may work like a charm for your babe!), but I don’t think we needed to “try out” 4 different kinds.
- breastfeeding pillow // I know a lot of people would probably argue that this one is a must-have, which is why we bought one before Bash was born. But mine was used by everyone but me. When Bash was a newborn it was good for other people holding him who needed some extra support, but I probably only used it a handful of time for feeding. And even then it was only because I felt like I had to since we spent $30-40 on it.
- baby powder // Why do we have a giant bottle of this? I have no idea why we bought it, but it lives in the bottom of the change table never to be used.
Every baby, parent, and family is different, but these are just a few things that worked for us!
What are some things that would be on your must-have list?